This is from Wednesday’s Getting to Know You post over at Create a Connection.
1) When you were growing up, who was the “wisest” person you were close to? How did you know they knew what they were talking about?
Minnie Willaford was a saint. She was there for my siblings and I, even when there was not enough money to pay her wages. Since I was the baby, she was already ancient and wise when I came along. She raised several generations of us and was a truly good woman. She used to have me read the bible to her in the afternoons. I still remember reading while she sorted her change for the bus, which she kept in metal Doan’s Pills containers. We all miss her. My sister finally realized that her intense fascination with African American women in art and quilting was an homage to Minnie.
2) Did you ever have a relative/friend give unsolicited advice that perhaps at the time it was given, were resentful, but later came to find out they were right?
My family always gave me unsolicited advice on how to keep my weight under control. I was always resentful and they were NOT right. I ended up with an eating disorder that haunted me for years. Calling me “Fats” or “Fat, Fat the Water Rat” was NOT helpful in any way. Refusing to buy me clothes until I lost weight, was NOT helpful. I try to leave that stuff in the past, but sometimes the bile rises and up and I start to choke on it. I do my best to not dwell on it, but this question dug it up. Oh, well.
3) Have you ever regretted not taking someone’s advice?
Seems like someone once told me to stay away from debt and credit cards and save for a rainy day. I did not listen and got in way over my head in college. It took me a decade to clean up the mess, but I learned my lesson. It is pretty simple mathematics…if you can not afford it, do not buy it. Learn to live on less and force yourself to put a little money into savings, you will need it one day.
4) What words of wisdom would you give to someone trying to find their way in the world? What words did you hear that helped you find your way?
Sometimes things look abysmal and like you will never find your way out, but you can and probably will. I think being told not to take myself too seriously was helpful. I was a master brooder in my day. When I finally figured out that world did not revolve around me or my family, it was much easier to take it all in stride. I can even joke about it now, but I was dangerously close to the edge when I was young.
And now for something completely different….
I created a couple of Simpson character avatars after seeing Deb’s post. I thought it was kind of fun, but then I got busy and never posted them on my blog. I suppose I should add, better late than never.
